The people who help around and who are being there for there friends most of the times they find themselves to be lonley most.
Why is the world like that ? when u are there for your friends when they need you ? Why does it happens that when u really need someone nearby u dont find one ? Is there something wrong in helping around ?
I have seen so many instances in my life, have seen in a few of my relatives lives, the people who used to help most also get all the blame from this world ... Those are the ones who are called as "bura" meaning "bad people" or people who are disrupting.
I am so much confused that is caring wrong ? is helping wrong ? are you not entiteled for some love or some care when u need ? why do u have to at times go and tell your friends that u need them ? why cannot they realize that on there own ? why do u have to remind them that u need them ? and why do they feel that they are doing a favor to there friend ?
Why are people who have good intention, who help, who want that no one suffers are lonley most ? why why why ?
why does that happens ... I guess lot of questions ... but i think from today on i would start writing my own ...
and to my friends ... i don't want you to call me ... I just dont want that .. I just want you to put yr comments right here in the COMMENT BOX .. as i am not going to hear anything nor discuss this over phone to anyone ... Yes i can also me adamanent ... and i have had enough of one sideded ness.
And if u think u never told that because u thought its too small thing to tell ... then i will say IT MATTERS so please say ...
Kshitij
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well, ppl who help are not alwaz lonely... its jst tht.. world today is a lil selfish, but not all are so. its true tht sometimes ur frnd ur buddy wudnt come to know tht ur in need in them , tht cud b because ur not tht near to them or they havent been in touch vth u since long time.... not all ppl have ability to know n undersand tht a frnd is in need, but whn they realise they mite b late but thy r alwaz vth u ....
mez phone call away from u ....
take care
The 3 hardest things to say in life are: I'm Sorry, I love you, and Help!
For those that always give help, it is hardest for them to request it. Why? Because, those of us who help others, who live to help others, never want to see the day when we can't help others and are forced to request help. Strength of self and selflessness can be as much a good thing as it is a bad thing. When I sit back and think about life and the help I have given others, I realize that every time, I have always been asked in some little way, and I've responded by helping. Maybe I'm more recptive than others. I don't know why, but I am who I am, and I do spend most of my free time alone and relaxing, waiting for the next request, so I can burn out again on the help thing. BUT...I feel so satisfied when I do good for others that it's worth it.
@ mahek
i know u are there and that is best thing about u ...
@dragonwolf
yes it feels great, but sometimes when we have given even hints to our friends regarding that and they still dont realize .. wht i am asking is why being taken for granted ?
@ksh
It's not a question of being taken for granted. Only 1 person in my life has ever done that to me, and I left her behind many years ago. She was a leech. Many are selfish, many are just so focused that they miss the needs in others. Many have huge personal commitments already, like families. Children require huge amounts of energy.
As I recover fromsurgery, I have found that 90% of my daily activities are extremely impaired. I do the best I can within my limitations. While on vacation with my family, I was proud to find a few things I could work out accomplishing with my thumb splint. I was talking to my father about it, feeling quite proud about it. He just frowned at me and told me that I should be asking for help rather than finding my own ways to do things. LOL........all I had done was figured out a way to brush and floss my teeth......do you think I'd ask someone else to put their hands in my mouth? Not likely. Still he made me think....I have since asked assistance in several things that are difficult for me right now. Being stubborn is also a bad habit of mine....they had to sedate me 3 times during surgery. I really wanted to watch and was hoping for a nerve block.
It is hard, and at times very lonely. It can be depressing. At other times, you can go to bed at night feeling pleasantly exhausted and content. Also know, that all things done come back to you three-fold, so......if you think about life, and those times where you didn't receive the help you hinted you needed, take a look at your life in the prior weeks and count the times where possible difficulties worked out on their own. You may just find that you received help along the way without even seeing that you needed it.
well as always the problem with life is compassion, their are few who have compassion for everyone and everything. however thoose who have no compassion lose some of the most important things in life such as love, true friendship and most of all a sense of being.
when a friend is in need it takes a certain connection to be able to understand when they need to just talk discuss if through with someone, or listen or sometimes physical intervention. If someone can do that then they are a true friend.However that is the problem sometimes they are true friends but have a problem that is constricting them from helping you.
With life their are many factors many pushes and many pulls. one thing that must always be true is without friends without companionship you are alone and that is a very sad place to be.
even if your person is 1/2 way across the world and a spiritual/ mental link though the internet at least you are not alone
i feel for thoose who are society outcasts and social rejects as some may be smart some may be odd but us as humans all need one thing most of all
A FRIEND
so i thank your kshitij for talking with you and i hope that you will always feel loved and cared for as you deserve
No one deserves to be left alone no matter what they have done
Kier
Hi Kshit... I know u don't know me very well, actually I feel that no one really knows me actually. No one knows how I really am, how I feel, what I think...
But I am a very melancholic person, so feeling lonely is what I do mostly. And I can totally understand how you feel...Sometimes I feel like my only purpose in life is to help my friends, and be lonely and sad.
But I know that's not the wrong thing to do. If my friends don't feel when I need them, it doesn't mean I should do the same. Instead I try to help them in anyway thaqt I can, by being there for them, talking with them, allowing them to use their anger on me without geting upset. This life is all about friends... If we don't help them, who will? That's what a true friend is... A person that helps his friends regardless of how he feels or how lonely and sad he is. And if our friends don't see that, at least we should keep our end of the deal, and remain a true friend to the end.
Yes it seems like a curse is upon those that help out the most, but I trust that eventually their will come, when they will be as happy as one can be, and forget all about past sadness.
But did you ever tought that it's not that the ones who help the most are the most lonely, it's the other way around? The ones that are most lonely, help the most. That's because they know how it is to be abandoned by friends and being all alone... Maybe that's what makes us feel when our friends need us. So don't feel sad, I'm sure good days will come for you and everyone of us that feels sad and lonely.
Wakey
well, You all bring up points that I can connect to and I feel the same in many ways.
I have insomnia, and while I am not ashamed oof saying it, it was from years of being a teenager smoking dope. Bad me. But now that I have stopped, I cant sleep so I sit on mIRC waiting for someone to ask for help. I get satisfaction in knowing I have helped someone accomplish something that means alot to them. I sit on IRC 20 hours a day, if not more, and I am willing to help anyone with any need. I help other members officers all the time on MSN with farms and strategies and teach them to be better players.
To me I dont see it has been used, or taken advantage of, but unlike alot of other members, I am not the biggest acount. I have a limitation to what I can do but am willing to push that limitation to help someone out.
One example, The other day I got the gold and sold off to karel22 so she could get her cannons. I didnt have cannons at the time. Yet I was willing to help her get them.
I join The Silv3r Hawks so I would have more people to help and I have been doing so. I have been somewhat of a middle man between LaCN and S3H in the regards of Ally Attacks. I have assisted in getting masses to happen between the 2 alliances on targets of which are hitting one or both allainces. Yet I dont gain anything from this but satisfaction in knowing I helped out.
Agent.
@ wolfi, kier, wakey and agent of mayhem
I get all of yr points ... we who help are very shy to ask for help. I agree with that and i guess that makes it difficult for the other person to make it out and yes all have there lives which could keep them pretty busy and occupied. One got to repect that. This I wrote when i was in a very bad mood but yes over the night when i myself thought about this i saw where i have been wrong.
Helping is satisfying and yes we understand the value to be there when needed and well i am also living for the day when i will get mine fullfilled ... lets see when that happens.
Thank you all ... It really helped, few of you i know but well those i didnt knew also took some of your valuable time and posted.
Thank You,
Kshitij
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